It definitely happens to the best of us. And it definitely sucks when it does. Your dignity, your pride—all out the window. Sure, you’ll be pretty bummed out but the best way to get better is to give the girl a huge middle finger. Just say, “F*ck you.” These songs should help you do that.

1. Halloween- Dave Matthews Band

The first song in my archive that I’d listen to if I just got dumped. The song comes out quick and hard and evil. With lines like “Wait til I come and I’ll steal your soul,” Halloween is a great “I hate my ex-girlfriend” song.

2. Climbing Up the Walls- Radiohead

Climbing Up the Walls might overdo Halloween in its evil overtones. Whereas Halloween talked about stealing souls, Climbing Up the Walls says, “Either way you turn, I’ll be there.” Don’t take this literally, but instead take solace in the idea that even though you got dumped, there’s no way that bitch will ever be able to forget about you.

3. Rootless Tree- Damien Rice

Yes I know—Damien Rice is a pussy. But this song isn’t. This one makes the list solely because of its chorus—“F*ck you, f*ck you and all we’ve been through.” Your mindset should be exactly the same.

4. Just a Thought- Gnarls Barkley

Stemming away from the “I hate you” songs is this self-loathing song from Gnarls Barkley. After being dumped it’s extremely easy to fall into a self-hate routine, and Gnarls articulates this feeling extremely well. It also helps to know that you’re not the only person in the world with temporarily low self-esteem—even the huge, black guy from Gnarls Barkley can’t stand himself sometimes.

5. Hang Me Up to Dry- Cold War Kids

Pretty self-explanatory, but this one complains about the terrible treatment of a woman, probably pretty similar to the treatment you experienced. Blast the chorus when Nathan Willett screams, “Hang me out to dry, you wore me out too, too, too many times.”

6. Talk Show Host- Radiohead

For some reason Radiohead is really good at encapsulating that feeling of internal anger. “You want me? ****ing come on and break the door down.” In summary, your ex hasn’t come close to breaking you. She’s going to have to break the door down if she really wants to hurt you. You’re bigger, better and stronger than her.

7. Black Cadillacs- Modest Mouse

The song starts off sounding fairly sweet, but it does not go back to that sound. Quote Modest Mouse when they say, “I was done, done, done with all the f*cking around.” That’s how your attitude should be. You should be happy that you don’t have to deal with that stupid girl anymore.

8. Shoulda Known- Atmosphere

The verses probably don’t apply to you unless your girlfriend was a cocaine addict who stole your things. Focus on the chorus instead—“Shoulda known better not to f*ck with you.” Once again, let the songs show that you’re better off without this girl. She was dirty, stupid and not worth any increment of time.

9. Spitting Venom- Modest Mouse

The whole song deals with a girl who thinks she can control everything. When the music gets heavy and Isaac Brock says, “You can say what you want, but don’t act like you care. It takes more than one person to say what’s fair, it’s over,” you should be able to relate. And since the song is so damn good, by the end of it you should feel pretty purified and rid of any problems.

10. All My Friends- LCD Soundsystem

This song is last for a reason. It’s not about break-ups or hating anyone. It’s simply a party song. It’s music on acid and speed. Model your life after All My Friends from now on. You’re that guy now—partying all night, hooking up with random girls and not having to answer to anyone. Consider yourself lucky that some stupid girl made a dumb mistake.